“Why Me?” – A Lesson from Arthur Ashe on Grace, Gratitude, and Acceptance

In a world where success is celebrated loudly and pain is often questioned silently, the story of Arthur Ashe, one of the most revered tennis legends in history, teaches us a timeless lesson about grace and gratitude.

Arthur Ashe was not just a tennis player—he was a symbol of resilience, dignity, and brilliance. The first African-American male to win the US Open, Australian Open, and Wimbledon, his career was an inspiration to millions. But his life off the court revealed an even deeper strength.

In the later years of his life, Arthur Ashe was diagnosed with AIDS, contracted through a blood transfusion during heart surgery—a cruel fate for a man who had given his all to life and sport. As news spread, thousands of letters poured in from fans across the globe. Many expressed love and admiration. One letter, however, asked a question that echoed what many silently wondered:

“Why does God have to select you for such a terrible disease?”

Arthur’s response was powerful, honest, and deeply moving.

He said:

“The world over,

50 million children start playing tennis.

5 million learn how to play it properly.

500,000 learn professional tennis.

50,000 come to the global circuit.

5,000 reach the Grand Slam tournaments.

50 reach Wimbledon.

4 go to the semi-finals.

2 reach the finals.

And when I was holding the championship trophy in my hands…

I never once asked God, ‘Why me?’

So now, in pain, I do not ask God, ‘Why me?’”

Arthur Ashe's humility and gratitude in the face of immense personal suffering is a profound reminder to all of us. It's easy to count our misfortunes and ask why life is unfair. But how often do we pause to appreciate the quiet blessings? The good health, the family, the love, the opportunities, the simple moments of joy.

He concluded with a thought we all need to hear more often:

“Let us be thankful to God for the 98% of good things in life.”

Arthur Ashe didn’t just leave behind tennis records; he left behind wisdom—wisdom we desperately need in today’s world filled with comparison, complaints, and blame.

His story reminds us that gratitude in good times is easy—but gratitude in suffering is what reveals true strength. So the next time life throws something unexpected your way, maybe pause and remember Arthur’s words—and ask not “Why me?” but instead, “What can I be grateful for today?”

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Out Of The Box August 08, 2025