We all know the feeling. The quiet sting when a friendship fades, the profound emptiness after a loved one passes, the disorienting feeling when a job ends, or a place you once called home no longer feels like yours. We build our lives around connections, possessions, and identities, and in these moments of separation, we feel the full weight of their loss.
It's a universal human experience, and it can be a source of immense grief. But what if there was a way to navigate these inevitable partings with a deeper sense of peace and clarity?
Ancient wisdom, preserved in texts like the Mahabharata, offers a profound perspective. The wise Bhishma once said: "Develop this attitude based on wisdom: I am alone. There is no one who is mine; nor do I belong to anyone. Even this body does not belong to me. These objects of the world are not mine; nor do they belong to others. Or, all things belong equally to all beings. Therefore there is no need for any mind to grieve over these."
At first, this might sound stark, even cold. In a world that celebrates connection and belonging, what does it mean to say, "I am alone; no one is mine"? It is not a call for loneliness or isolation. It's an invitation to understand our inherent, complete self, independent of external relationships. It's about realizing that our worth and identity aren't defined by our partner, our friend group, our job title, or our social media presence. When we grasp this, our relationships can become deeper and more authentic, built on a foundation of genuine connection rather than a desperate need for validation.
This wisdom extends to our physical selves, a constant source of anxiety in our modern lives. The quote reminds us, "Even this body does not belong to me." We spend so much energy worrying about appearance, health, and aging. But if we can see our body not as a possession to be perfected, but as a temporary vessel, a gift to be cared for, it frees us from the burden of ownership. It encourages us to be better stewards of our health and well-being, to practice gratitude for all that our bodies can do for us in this moment, rather than lamenting what they can’t.
And in a world defined by stark divisions and staggering inequality, the final part of this ancient wisdom is perhaps the most revolutionary: "All things belong equally to all beings." This goes against everything our consumer-driven society tells us. It challenges the notion of private ownership and the pursuit of endless personal acquisition. It's a reminder that the resources of our planet, the beauty of a sunset, the joy of a good story—they are not ours alone. This mindset is a powerful antidote to greed, envy, and the endless cycle of "more." It's a foundation for ethical living, encouraging us to act as caretakers of the world and to find peace in a sense of shared belonging.
This profound understanding of impermanence—that everything ends with separation—ultimately lessens the grip of grief. It doesn't mean we won't feel sadness when we experience loss; sadness is a natural human emotion. But we can feel that sadness without the added weight of the ego's attachment. We can mourn the beauty of a union without being consumed by a sense of loss of "mine."
By embracing this philosophy, we are not building a wall around our hearts; we are building a foundation of acceptance and peace. We are learning that while every union may end, the lessons, love, and growth we gained from it are a permanent part of who we are. In a world of constant change, this inner wisdom becomes our truest and most reliable anchor.
Additional Resources:
Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley - How to Practice Acceptance:
https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/topic/acceptance/overview The New York Times - The Power of Letting Go:
https://www.nytimes.com/guides/well/how-to-let-go The American Journal of Bioethics - On the Moral Status of the Body: https://www.tandfonline.com/journals/uajb20 (A more academic but relevant article on the philosophical concept of "ownership" of one's body).
The Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy - Indian Philosophy:
https://plato.stanford.edu/entries/indian-philosophy/ Psychology Today - The Psychology of Grief:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/grief
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